Ideals & Values
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When we think of ideals and values, we may identify strongly with them or feel proud of them. We may also be willing to fight for them.
However, I have learnt that ideals—and especially idealizations—can sometimes become a way of excluding someone or something, and this can have unexpected consequences in our lives.
From a systemic perspective, what we consider good, right, admirable, or unacceptable does not develop in isolation.
Our values can connect us deeply with our families, cultures, communities, and other groups we belong to. They can also create powerful loyalties. Sometimes, by idealizing one thing, we may unknowingly exclude a person, a possibility, or a part of life along with it. After all, loving flowers doesn't make weeds bad.
This practice creates an opportunity to explore your ideals and values differently. It's an invitation to explore what you may be loyal to through them, what or whom may have been excluded, and what becomes possible when you give a place to what has been left out. And this points to something larger: whenever we are less attached to one way of seeing, being, or living, we open up to what else we are able to see, accept, or allow into our lives.